07:52 pm, by shepherdsstaff
  01:28 pm, reblogged  by shepherdsstaff 165

Ha!!

(Source: part2of3)

09:34 pm, reblogged  by shepherdsstaff 132628

5 Really Bad Reasons To Leave the Church

This is from Relevant Magazine and I loved the article so I had to share it.


BY: AARON LOY
JANUARY 27, 2014
Aaron is a husband, dad, church planter, coffee addict, insatiable learner and chronic dreamer. He’s the founding pastor of Mosaic Lincoln. You can find more of his writing on his blog or on Twitter.



Let’s be honest, while there are some good reasons for leaving a church, there are a lot more bad ones. As a pastor, I hear some of them every now and then as people walk out the door. As a church planter, I hear them constantly as people walk in the door.

If you’re thinking about looking for a new church home, please don’t use one of these five reasons to make the jump:

1. “I’m not being fed”

Do pastors have a responsibility to steward the scriptures and care for their church spiritually? You bet they do. And it can be all too easy to overlook this while trying to manage staff, build systems, meet needs, put out fires and develop leaders, all while overseeing the overall vision and direction of the church. But let’s be honest, if you own a smartphone, a personal computer or a library card, you have access to some of the best preaching and teaching in the world. You can even find teaching archives of some of the greatest preachers of all time. Christian, you have access to more “meat” than any other generation before you!

YOUR PRIMARY CALL IN THE CHURCH IS TO CONTRIBUTE, NOT JUST TO CONSUME.

To leave a church because you’re not getting “enough” is a cop out. Your primary call in the church is to contribute, not just to consume. As a Christian, you shouldn’t require spoon-feeding for the rest of your life. Eventually you need to learn how to feed yourself so that, in time, you can actually feed others. Remember, your call is not just to be a disciple but to make disciples.

2. “It’s getting too big”

I can appreciate the sense of loss that accompanies growth. When we first began, our church was little more than a small band of brothers and sisters meeting together in a living room. It feels very different now that we are a church of a few hundred people spread across multiple services. There are moments when I miss the intimacy and simplicity of those early days. But remaining small is a sad and unbiblical goal.

When churches are faithful to the Great Commission, lives will be changed and people will be added to their number. It may not happen rapidly, but growth is sometimes inevitable for faithful churches, given a long enough timeline. If you have a problem with big churches, you really wouldn’t have liked the first church, and you definitely won’t like heaven.


3. “I don’t agree with everything that is being preached”

You know what? Neither do I and I’m the pastor. As such I fully reserve the right to disagree with myself. And every now and then I do exactly that. Why? Because I’m learning. I’m growing. I’m asking questions. And my hope is that those I pastor are doing likewise.

If you insist that your pastor agree with you on every little thing under the sun, you are going to either hop from church to church for the rest of your life in perpetual disappointment or you will eventually give up and drop out altogether. Chances are you are not going to agree with everything that is preached anywhere. As long as your pastor isn’t preaching outright heresy, you can afford to disagree on secondary issues.The truth is when you choose to stay despite disagreeing on some things, you, your pastor and your church are better for it.

4. “My Needs Aren’t Being Met”

When someone lists this as a reason for leaving it is a dead giveaway that somewhere along the way they came to believe that the Church actually exists to serve their needs. They’ve bought into the lie that, when it comes to church, it’s really about “me.” Here’s the problem: the Church actually isn’t about you. It’s about Jesus. It’s his Church. He came for it. He died for it. He redeemed it. He continues to build it. And one day, he’ll come back for it. It’s his,

THE CHURCH DOESN’T EXIST TO MEET YOUR NEEDS. YOU ARE A PART OF THE CHURCH THAT EXISTS TO MEET THE NEEDS OF THE WORLD.

This is the same Jesus who came to seek and to save the lost and then commissioned his Church to go and do the same. The Church doesn’t exist to meet your needs. You are a part of the Church that exists to meet the needs of the world. Put away the shopping cart and pick up a shovel.

5. Unresolved Conflict

Wherever you find the community of sinning saints you will find conflict. Lots of it. The Church is one big family full of characters and misfits. Sometimes sisters argue. Sometimes brothers fight. Sometimes you want to bury your weird uncle in the backyard. But despite it all, family is supposed to be the place where you stick together. Even when it’s hard. Especially when it’s hard.

Paul addressed a lot of church conflict in his letters. No where do I hear him encouraging believers to bail on one another or move on down the road to a different church where it’ll be easier. Instead, much of his letters are his encouraging and coaching these ragamuffin communities in how to do this very hard and messy thing together.

When we leave at first sign of real conflict, it shortchanges God’s best work in our midst. It sidesteps the process of repentance, forgiveness and grace. It negates the power of the Gospel to bring reconciliation where reconciliation might seem impossible. We and those around us miss out on all of it when we just leave.

I do know that not all conflict is resolvable. I know that reconciliation is impossible where there is no repentance. I get that. But remember, repentance starts with us. And so does the extending of grace. And when we resolve to stick around and keep on repenting and extending grace, I think God can do far more than we often give Him credit for. Some of God’s best work happens in the mess.

05:31 pm, by shepherdsstaff

Two

Two years it’s been.

      Things happen that change the person that you once were, molding you into someone entirely different. Someone that sees things so differently and in a whole new perspective. I needed a break from all of it. Time to focus on God

      I see the Church differently, some things have shown me what the Church is and isn’t supposed to be. I’ve looked from the outside in, as a stranger. Someone who couldn’t identify with what they were seeing, what they were hearing, and what people were claiming to be. 

      I’ve been on the inside, with the routines and politics of the “Church”. From what I can see we aren’t all who we’re claiming to be. Something has gone astray in the hearts of the ones who say they love Christ. So many people have gotten apathetic and careless to the whole idea of being accountable of how they’re helping people to grow. Or not grow. 

      What’s with the drama and childish games. The gossip and whispering. We aren’t in school anymore folks. We are grown, and should be at this point. Why are there people that are the head of ministries that clearly shouldn’t be. Why isn’t the leadership doing something about it? When did they stop listening?

      When did people stop caring about the progression of their congregation? We are the next generation, the next body of believers to step up. I believe that’s important. I believe that is vital. I know it is crucial.

Being accountable and prayerful in your ministry isn’t optional, it is being responsible.

       We should be learning and growing in Church, during worship and during the sermon. We should also be growing at home in our personal time. Daily prayer and thanksgiving. We shouldn’t be stagnant or regressing. Everyday is an opportunity to move forward in the Word and it’s teachings. 

      An accountablity partner helps so much when you need help, or have questions, or when you’re having trouble staying focused. Having someone with you at a similar level is a good thing to have, whether you want it or not. We need it.

      I know that being able to look at yourself and evaluate and see where you are is part of growth, and knowing that you may have blind spots, or that you’ve made mistakes. Not being too prideful to say ‘hey, I know that I have issues and I want to change, and I am willing to change,’ Not always pointing the finger, but taking a look at yourself before placing any blame. Admitting that you’re human. 

These things have been on my heart, in my prayers and in my thoughts. 

Keep praying and hoping for change, because it will come. God’s hand is still in it no matter what the situation. Be alert and long for discernment. Stay in touch with God and keep your head up, don’t get discouraged. I know it’s hard. You just have to look to that goal and what you know the Church should be. A safe place for the lost.

God Bless <3

aa

10:02 pm, by shepherdsstaff 5

#Anniversary #husband @joshuaalcott

  05:13 am, by shepherdsstaff

#throwbackthursday #mylove #myhubby

  08:36 pm, by shepherdsstaff

There will be more #kitties to come in #2014 #lovekitties

  09:28 pm, by shepherdsstaff

My #parents love them so much. #blackandwhite #decemberphotochallenge

  08:46 am, by shepherdsstaff